Everything must be absolutely perfect.
Shouldn’t it? Doesn’t perfectionism imply that you have high standards? And you, my friend, have the highest standards.
Or are we confusing excellence with the definition of perfectionism? Let’s see, shall we?
PERFECTIONISM VS EXCELLENCE
Perfectionism: Striving for an unattainable standard; an all or nothing approach that impedes productivity; rooted in fear (fear of failure, fear of not being good enough). Why bother if it isn’t going to be perfect?
Excellence: Reaching for a high, attainable standard; failure’s considered to be part of the process, and it’s also valuable feedback.
GETTING OVER IT
Because you want to get stuff done, right?
Change your definition: If you tell yourself that you’re not a perfectionist, but only have perfectionistic tendencies, you give yourself space to do things differently. I tried this and it’s really like breaking free from the prison that is perfectionism. Maybe it’ll work for you too?
Use a timer: How long do you think it’ll take you to get something done? Remember that time when you had a paper due the next day at 12:00 pm and you had to spend all night writing it?And then finally submitted it at 11:59 am? Good times. Goodbye perfectionism, hello productivity.
MultiTimer, a free iPhone app, includes multiples timers for the tasks you do on a daily basis.
Men get the luxury of being able to specialize. Women are expected to be perfect at everything.
Am I a good girlfriend? Am I a perfect mom? Am I the best athlete? Am I wearing white after Labor Day?
These little constant quests for perfection start pecking away at our attention. Perfect never leaves room for improvement. And perfect never lets us focus on what’s really out there for us to achieve … you don’t need to be perfect to be valid.
Your flaws — your unsuccessful attempts at greatness or even mediocrity — are real. They make you better. And that’s beautiful because it’s never perfect.”
Read more about Ronda Rousey’s Lesson in Imperfection, Refinery29, July 2016
What do you do to push past perfectionism? Leave a comment below.